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Recently I received an email from a mother whose child had just been diagnosed with autism. She was in pain, and she wanted to know how she was supposed to carry on; she felt all alone.<\/p>\n

What I told her was that there are moments in time that are forever etched in your memory-\u00a0 for example –\u00a0 I will never forget the moment I heard President John F. Kennedy had been assassinated.\u00a0 Most Americans will never forget what they\u00a0 were doing on September 11, 2001 when they heard that the Twin Towers in NYC were hit by planes and were going down.<\/p>\n

For a parent, the day you receive your child\u2019s diagnosis of autism is the same \u2013 you will never forget where you were, how you were told and what feelings overcame you.\u00a0 The difference is, that you feel all alone in your pain \u2013 it is not a national catastrophe, but a personal one that impacts you just as deeply.\u00a0 When you leave the doctor\u2019s office, you are all alone in your pain. Unlike a national catastrophe, everyone else\u2019s life continues on just the same \u2013 only you, your spouse\u2019s and your family\u2019s life has changed. Even if you expected the results because you felt something was wrong with your child, nothing prepares you for hearing the official diagnosis, and for the slew of emotions that follow. It is awful.<\/p>\n

However, it is important\u00a0 to remember at this time, that you are not alone. There are many parents out there who went through what you are going through, or are going through it now, and connecting to them can be your lifeline.\u00a0 They will understand what those close to you may not.\u00a0 You will get autism parenting tips from them. At first you may be reluctant to contact the autism\u00a0 organizations or\u00a0 attend support group meetings \u2013 it is kind of like joining a club you never wanted to be a member of.\u00a0 However, getting to know other parents you can talk to who understand what you are going through is very helpful.<\/p>\n

Of course, you would rather have heard that nothing was wrong with your child.\u00a0 A parent goes through many emotions at this time.\u00a0 It is important to focus on the positive aspect that\u00a0 now that you know what is wrong, you can move forward, when you are ready, to find the treatments, therapies and strategies that will help your child.<\/p>\n

Once you are ready, you will need to get educated about autism. We can help you do that at Autism College.\u00a0 Our free Library will have information you can use.\u00a0 You may find our Parent Empowerment Course useful.\u00a0 Or, how about my books, Autism Spectrum Disorders, and 41 Things to Know About Autism.<\/p>\n

In my next post, I\u2019ll provide some useful tips for parents new to autism wanting to know how to cope.<\/p>\n